Celebrating 20 at the Hilton Waikoloa

So it’s a milestone anniversary in your life and you want to celebrate it big?!  I have a great idea for you!

If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook, you probably caught a glimpse of Audley and I recently celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in Hawaii.  This was a dream trip for us and I want to share some of it with you, beginning with the fabulous Hilton Waikoloa Village on the Big Island of Hawaii.

We spent five nights of our trip on the Big Island.  As I share my little review with you I must tell you that stays on both the Big Island and Oahu were covered with Hilton Honors points.  It pays to stay brand loyal when traveling (which Audley does a lot for work).  Hilton has one of the best loyalty programs on the market right now and we have enjoyed its benefits for nearly six years.

Hilton Waikoloa Village

Since our stay at the resort was a points stay it really could have gone two ways; poorly (because it was free and they weren’t making anything off of us), or exceptionally well (and our stay was definitely exceptional)!

I could write for days on the wonderful time we experienced at the Hilton, but I’m going to be reasonable and share some of the finer points, beginning with our arrival.

We arrived late in day for our stay on the Big Island.  We were tired after a day of sightseeing on Oahu and then flying Hawaiian Air over to the Island.  Walking into the open lobby was so lovely.  Fresh flower arrangements brimming with native flowers were a delight for the eyes.

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The young lady checking us in was a peach.  She was so friendly and immediately made us feel welcome.  We expected to pay the $25 a day resort fee as well as the parking fee, but were surprised when we were informed that our resort fee was waived (since we were on Hilton Honors points) and we were free to enjoy all of the resort perks on them.  To say we were stunned was an understatement!  We were also gifted with vouchers to apply to meals we enjoyed while at the resort as well as a gift certificate for special drinks on our anniversary.

After a fifteen minute walk to our room (we chose to stroll the hotel instead of taking the tram), Audley and I excitedly unpacked for our Hawaiian adventure!

I will be honest with you, we didn’t spend all of our time at the resort, although it is very possible to do so.  In fact if you are traveling with younger children, they can have a wonderful Hawaiian experience without having to drive all over the island and exhausting them in order to have one.  Audley and I drove over to Volcanos National Park to hike, visited the Volcanos Winery, checked out Greenwell Farms coffee plantation, hiked some more at Kaloko-Honokōhau National Historical Park, toured the Painted Church, and did a little antique shopping……

Big Island Highlights

BUT, the resort has so many neat activities, from hula lessons to a dolphin experience and some fabulous restaurants that you don’t even have to leave the Waikoloa Village to enjoy a Hawaiian experience.

Here are some of the highlights of our experience at the Hilton:

The art.  From the moment you walk into the Hilton Waikoloa you are surrounded by artwork of the many cultures that have influenced the Hawaiian Islands over the last couple of centuries.  Audley and I thoroughly enjoyed walking the flag-stone paved walkways taking in the many statues, paintings and treasures.  The artwork is original and plenty of antiques to satisfy the historian inside.

Hilton Hallway

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This was by far one of my favorite pieces; it reminded me of my girls.

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Audley had a little too much fun; apparently being in Hawaii and away from work brought out the kid in him.

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I Love my hubby's sense of humor.

I Love my hubby’s sense of humor.

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We appreciated the transportation through the resort, although we only utilized it a couple of times.  There is a air-conditioned tram that runs 24 hours a day around the resort dropping off guests at various locations.  The Hilton Waikoloa also boasts a canal with a sweet boat ride.  We enjoyed just puttering around in the boat at the end of the day.  We only used the train once and that was the evening we were dressed up for our Anniversary dinner.  Otherwise we preferred to walk everywhere.  It’s healthier and you could see and enjoy so much more!

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The dolphins were beautiful to watch.  We didn’t pay for the experience, but you still have access to watching these majestic creatures play.

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We ate a several local places away from the resort, but we also checked out a couple of  restaurants located inside.

Sitting down to our anniversary sunset supper at KPC

Sitting down to our anniversary sunset supper at KPC

Kamuela Provision Company was by far the best dining experience we had on the trip.  With a sunset anniversary dinner on the lanai we could not have ordered a more perfect evening.

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The food was fabulous and our waiter was outstanding!  He offered to take pictures for us (no dinner selfies; a very exciting prospect) and completely exceeded our expectations for service.

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I also appreciated the fact the Kamuela uses local ingredients from seafood to vegetables whenever possible.  It makes a huge difference in the quality of the food!

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Imari Japanese and Sushi restaurant was another wonderful supper choice for us.  My sushi was so delicious and I’m ashamed to say that I might have eaten myself into a wee bit of a sushi coma.

Audley's sashimi platter

Audley’s sashimi platter

Imari Sushi

We enjoyed the Big Island breakfast buffet one morning, but I didn’t feel like I ate $40 of breakfast (an omelet and fresh fruit) since I’m trying to stay healthy, so we didn’t make that a daily option.  I carried protein bars which served their purpose for morning fuel.  Iced coffee from Waikoloa Coffee Company was an everyday treat.  I only hated they closed in the afternoons and at night as an evening coffee would have been divine.

We did not enjoy dining at the Boat Landing Cantina (which may have been due to the people seated near us; please make your kids behave public parents and if you’ve had too much to drink, don’t be so loud…. we don’t care!) nor did we particularly care for the Chinese restaurant (we found the food to be rather unflavorful). Although, I did hear other’s saying they thought their Chinese meal was delicious.  But then again, is not my favorite cuisine.

Having photographers throughout the resort was nice.  They aren’t professionals by any means, but it was nice to have a few pictures of us that weren’t selfies since we were traveling without the kiddos.

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Anniversary date

Shopping in the Hilton Waikoloa was lovely as well.  We had access to traditional souvenirs, but also the ability to shop for something a wee bit more of a keepsake…

Nalani Infinity Pendant purchased at Na Hoku & gifted to me from Audley.

Nalani Infinity Pendant purchased at Na Hoku & gifted to me from Audley.

I do want to point out, the Big Island was formed from Volcanos.  If you are looking for the white sandy beaches of Waikiki or the North Shore of Oahu you really won’t find that here.  There are some man-made areas available in the resort, and around the island, but the Big Island is more about history and the rugged beauty than beaches.

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Tropical Storm weather made for some beautiful waves

To me the Big Island is so much more laid back than Oahu and Maui which is perfect when you are wanting the perfect get-away to reconnect with your love.

From start to finish, our stay at the Hilton Waikoloa was a wonderful experience.  Honestly I cannot think of one negative event that made any impression on us.  We were even upgraded to a full ocean view 24 hours into our stay.

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Ocean View

I know that if we make a return trip to Hawaii, this will be our destination without a doubt!  Check them out.  You won’t be sorry at all!

Our Last Sunset on the Big Island

Our Last Sunset on the Big Island

**ALL opinions are totally mine and I was not compensated in any way for this post.**

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Marriage Matters: It’s the Little Things

In just two short weeks Audley and I will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary.  I never thought I could love this man of mine any more than I did on the day we said “I Do”, but truly, I DO!

We were so young!!

We were so young!!

I’ll be the first to admit we haven’t had the perfect marriage, nor have I been a perfect wife, but I wouldn’t change a thing we have been through the last twenty years for anything.

There was a time when marriages that lasted 20 years was quite the norm, but not any longer.  My heart hurts for the many friends of ours whose marriages have crumbled and broken up over the years.  On more than one occasion Audley or I have been asked how we have such a happy marriage and kept it together despite the odds that are stacked against all of us in this world.

The truth of it all is narrowed down to one scripture from the Song of Solomon….. “I am my beloveds and he is mine.”

Yes, we have a brick at the NASCAR Hall of Fame immortalizing our love for each other .... and the sport.

Yes, we have a brick at the NASCAR Hall of Fame immortalizing our love for each other …. and the sport.

It’s that simple.  Audley and I belong to each other; I submit to (completely respect) him as the head of our home, family & spiritual life and he in returns respects, honors and treats me like a queen and “loves me as Christ loves the Church and gave himself for her.”  I am not trampled on, taken advantage of or looked down upon, but we are partners in a life that is Christ centered.  We make mistakes, but at the end of the day we still love, honor and cherish each other which leads to a love that makes us truly happy.

Today I thought it would be fun to share just a few ways that we keep the love and romance alive.  After all, it’s the little things we do that will make or break any relationship we are in!

1.  Next to God, Always put your spouse first.  And I do mean always.  Yes moms, your kids/jobs/home/life in general have exhausted you, but remember, your spouse is tired as well.  Husbands must deal with deadlines, disgruntled employees, demanding clients, and in some cases OSHA, MSHA and the EPA which can make for a mentally exhausted man at night.  Don’t give your leftovers to your lover, give them your all, even if it’s putting the kids to bed an hour early (IN THEIR OWN BEDS…. I’m so against co-sleeping) so you can fall asleep on the couch together.  Your spouse deserves to feel wanted in their own home, not a guest who is in the way.

2. Pray or have devotion time together.  The world is constantly hitting us from all directions.  Its our jobs, family obligations, current events, music…. you name it, there is plenty to take us away from God and directly toward the world.  Take time to reconnect with God and your spouse.  I can assure you that those moments of prayer and devotion are the strongest you will feel in your love and marriage.  Audley and I have done the Love Dare together, as well as used a devotional Bible for couples over the years.  Read books to inspire or encourage your marriages.  Of late Tony & Lauren Dungy’s book “Uncommon Marriage” and Al & Lisa Robertson’s “A New Season” have been reads of ours.

3.  Date your spouse.  You dated to get to know each other before you married, so don’t let it stop!  Once kids and jobs come into in picture we change.  You need the time alone together.  Believe me, it does you a lot of good!  Keep dating each other and always having fun together!  When it comes to dating, you don’t have to make it expensive or extravagant.  Believe me, in our 20 years together we have been broke as can be and still found a way to have one-on-one time.  I know sitters aren’t always available or affordable, but you still need that time alone.  Our favorite dates ever have been the ones where we never left the house.  Those were nights when we put the kids to bed EARLY, ordered take-out and picnicked right in our living room.  A few candles, soft music and food someone else cooked and we are were all set!

Sushi carpet picnic anyone?

Sushi carpet picnic anyone?

Even with our kids perfectly capable of taking care of themselves, we still like our traditional carpet picnic.  Try it!

4.  Talk.  Something so simple, but something that so many stop doing.  Talk about work, home, kids, hopes, dreams, plans, ideas, feelings, highs and lows.  Don’t hide things from your spouse.  Share the happy moments, the irritating moments and the funny moments; let your spouse do the same.  You can laugh and be silly, but whatever you do, don’t be afraid to communicate!  This is how you continue to know who you are married to.  We all change as life circumstances change.  If you aren’t communicating then you  are losing the opportunity to know who you are married to!  Audley puts it this way:

“If you have an expensive car like a Mercedes, BMW or Lexus, you’ll do whatever you must in the way of maintenance to keep that car at peak performance. You know that vehicle, it’s quirks, what makes it run well and you know when it’s not at its best, and needing maintenance.

It’s the same way with your spouse. You learn when things are well with your mate, what they like and dislike, when they are struggling, and even every little quirk they have. They are precious and should be treated as such. You do whatever maintenance is needed to keep your marriage fresh, alive and always growing; always at it’s best.”

And one last point, communicating is NOT nagging, griping and beating down your spouse because they aren’t living up to YOUR expectations.

“Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” ( Proverbs 21:9) “Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.” ( Proverbs 21:19)

“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” (I Peter 3:7)

5.  Take care of yourself.  Oh how controversial this can be especially for stay-at-home-moms.  I have heard the excuse so many times that it is more important to take care of the kids instead of yourself and I’m totally going to say that is a crock!  Don’t neglect your children by any means, but take the time to pull yourself together for your own sanity and for your spouse.  Ladies, in most any industry in which your man works, he is around women who are dressed for success.  How do you think he feels to come home and see you still in your pajamas, hair unkempt and food from the kids on your shirt?  I’m not saying go all “Stepford” for him (well maybe occasionally surprise him there…. haha), but shower while the kids nap or watch a movie, brush your hair even if it’s to put in a ponytail or headband, add a little mascara & lipstick, and for heaven’s sake, put on some clean clothes!  Yoga pants with a matching tee-shirt is perfect.  Jeans and a button down top work well.

I have two favorite at-home “uniforms”: maxi dresses (they are light and flowy) and leggings with one of Audley’s button-down shirts. Add lip gloss, mascara and a pair of earrings and I feel beautiful!

And while I’m on the subject of taking care of things, don’t neglect your home either.  Take a few minutes each day to pick up before your spouse comes in.  The less chaos that greets a husband or wife when they arrive home, the more relaxing the evening can be!  (I’ll cover this in another post)

6.  Compliment one another.  It’s OK to tell your spouse that they look good/pretty/hot/sexy….. Really, it is!  Recognize when your wife has a new haircut or color and compliment them.  Wives, don’t forget to tell your hubby how great the yard looks after he has mowed.  And even after twenty years its OK to continually tell your spouse that your favorite pot roast and vegetables is still the bomb.

7.  Surprise one another.  Nothings says I am thinking of you more than a little surprise for your love.  Surprises don’t even have to be extravagant.  Here are a few ideas:

*Love notes in lunch box/suitcase/briefcase/diaper bag….

*Single rose (or favorite flower)

*Starbucks coffee at work

*Favorite chocolate bar (not good if your spouse is on a diet)

*Homecooked lunch at work

*Sleeve of golf balls before his next game

*A spa day for her

*Edible fruit arrangement

*a cake for two to eat after the kids go to bed (Publix has these in their bakery)

But a word of caution husbands…. appliances may surprise her, but not in a way you might like!

Power tools …. always a good surprise, especially for the DIY minded wife!

And lastly 8.  Even if the dog is barking, the kids are crying, you are a hot mess, or running behind, ALWAYS pause for a kiss and a hug!  As humans we crave touch and I don’t mean sexual touch.  We crave the comfort and love a hug can represent.  Touch can also be soothing to us; a way to ease the pain of things not going as you had planned for the day.  Men, your wife needs to know you are still attracted to her and want to touch her.  But more than anything showing affection to your spouse teaches your children that it’s ok to show love and affection to one another even after you say “I do”!  They may tell you how gross you are, but when you find a message they’ve shared saying their parents are #relationshipgoals, you’ll be glad you grossed them out.

Be great parents.... Gross your kids out!

Be great parents…. Gross your kids out!

I’ll be honest, I’m not ashamed of a little PDA.  I don’t care who knows that I am still madly and passionately and yes, even physically in love with my husband!  I’m more than happy to let the world have a peek at how wonderful life can be!  Besides, a little PDA during the day can lead to a little more intimacy once the lights go down.

And it’s OK.  After all you are married!

There are so many more ways to keep the flame alive in your marriages, but these are just a few that have been the most important in ours.  I hope you found a little inspiration for your own marriages today.  What do you do to keep the fires burning in your own marriages?

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Dating My Hubby

In August, Audley and I celebrated our nineteenth wedding anniversary.  According to everyone we work with, that’s a really big deal.

Personally I think everyday spent with my husband is a really big deal, but that’s for another day.

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It is a wonderful feeling though, knowing that we have made it through the awesome good times as well as the really bad, always fighting for us, our marriage and family in every thing we do.

I can’t say everything we’ve done has come easy (13 moves in 6 states, a hubby who had a heart attack at 33, various other health issues including my own obesity, and even in-law issues), but I can say without a doubt that the good, the bad; its all been worth it!

We were so young!!

We were so young!!

It’s also a really good feeling that after nineteen years, people still notice that we are madly and passionately in love with each other.    Even MacKenzie Grace recently had a girl that she works with make the comment that based on the way she (MacKenzie) acted and the comments she makes that she still had parents that were happily married.

Recently, we have a friend who has been going through a rough patch in their own life and marriage.  While in conversation with Audley and I a couple of weeks back they made the comment that they wanted a marriage like ours and then asked our secret.  Audley told them: “God First; Each other Second; and Self Third”.  Sounds simple enough, but so many choose not to have this kind of relationship.  It may be one person in the marriage or it may be both who are not putting the focus on where it should be.  It does take a toll on a marriage, maybe not early on but even twenty to thirty years later as couples are divorcing when they hit the empty nest.

There are many ways to keep your marriages strong, especially having a strong spiritual life together, but one way we keep our focus on each other is by dating.

Yes, after nineteen years of marriage, I still date my husband.

Regularly.

I know that may sound odd, but just like the whole six and a half  months we dated prior to our wedding, we still make plans and go out for the evening without our kids.  It’s not always been easy and at times we have had to be very creative (check out our carpet picnic here), but we have always made time for each other.

Really, dating is a great thing to benefit your marriage; a break from your element, downtime from the kids, time to reconnect with your spouse and talk about everything going on in your lives or the silly things that can keep your mind off work for a little while.

Yes, we all need it.

But, seriously, why do I date my husband?

I think my Audley actually says it best….

“If you have an expensive car like a Mercedes, BMW or Lexus, you’ll do whatever you must in the way of maintenance to keep that car at peak performance. You know that vehicle, it’s quirks, what makes it run well and you know when it’s not at its best, and needing maintenance.

It’s the same way with your spouse.  You learn when things are well with your mate, what they like and dislike, when they are struggling, and even every little quirk they have.  They are precious and should be treated as such. You do whatever maintainance is needed to keep your marriage fresh, alive and always growing; always at it’s best.”

“Wives submit (offer respect) to your husbands as to the Lord….

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for it…”

~Ephesians 5:22,25

Yes, our marriage relationships are precious, special, and lovely indeed!

Date night!

Date night!

I do love to date my man though.  It’s our time to disconnect from the stresses of the world and reconnect with one another.  We laugh, we talk, we share, we still dream and oh how we love!

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Since Audley travels during the week for work, I have returned to the workforce this last year, and we have three very busy teenagers at home, our nights out are even more important to us now than even ten years ago!

Sometimes we dress-up and go to the theater (if you have a man that will watch Broadway AND ballet with you…. he’s good one!!), sometimes we go casual just strolling through a park (Audley will even go to the Country Living Fair at Stone Mountain with me), it may be sushi night, out to the movies (we have very opposite tastes so that isn’t too often), NASCAR races, slipping away for weekends in a hotel, watching football either live or at Buffalo Wild Wings, and sometimes we never even leave the house!  There are times we keep it cheap (or free) and times we go way out of our budget, but each and every moment is treasured and precious to us.

No matter what we do, we have found plenty of things that we are interested in together.  And that is the key…. together.  I have been very blessed to enjoy four girls weekends away this summer with girlfriends, bloggers, and my sisters.  Audley enjoys golf with the guys. But in the end, the most fun we have is always together.

Which is as it should be.

Just out of curiosity, how long have you been married and what do you do to keep the romance alive in your marriages?

I would love to know!

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Our Anniversary

It’s rare to hear someone say that they can celebrate SEVENTEEN years of pure happiness with their LOVE!
 
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Yet, here we are.  Seventeen beautiful, happy & adventurous years.

 
Seventeen years ago today, Audley and I began the greatest adventure of our lives!
In a time where marriage is taken so lightly and are falling apart all around, seventeen years is a huge deal.  Audley is my rock, my biggest cheerleader and the absolute love of my life.  No matter what the world has thrown at us, together with our faith in God, we conquer and come out stronger each time.
“to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part”
{I said those words and I meant every one of them!}
I am so looking forward to the many more years God will bless us with, and can’t wait to see what they bring!
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“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12