Dating My Hubby

In August, Audley and I celebrated our nineteenth wedding anniversary.  According to everyone we work with, that’s a really big deal.

Personally I think everyday spent with my husband is a really big deal, but that’s for another day.

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It is a wonderful feeling though, knowing that we have made it through the awesome good times as well as the really bad, always fighting for us, our marriage and family in every thing we do.

I can’t say everything we’ve done has come easy (13 moves in 6 states, a hubby who had a heart attack at 33, various other health issues including my own obesity, and even in-law issues), but I can say without a doubt that the good, the bad; its all been worth it!

We were so young!!

We were so young!!

It’s also a really good feeling that after nineteen years, people still notice that we are madly and passionately in love with each other.    Even MacKenzie Grace recently had a girl that she works with make the comment that based on the way she (MacKenzie) acted and the comments she makes that she still had parents that were happily married.

Recently, we have a friend who has been going through a rough patch in their own life and marriage.  While in conversation with Audley and I a couple of weeks back they made the comment that they wanted a marriage like ours and then asked our secret.  Audley told them: “God First; Each other Second; and Self Third”.  Sounds simple enough, but so many choose not to have this kind of relationship.  It may be one person in the marriage or it may be both who are not putting the focus on where it should be.  It does take a toll on a marriage, maybe not early on but even twenty to thirty years later as couples are divorcing when they hit the empty nest.

There are many ways to keep your marriages strong, especially having a strong spiritual life together, but one way we keep our focus on each other is by dating.

Yes, after nineteen years of marriage, I still date my husband.

Regularly.

I know that may sound odd, but just like the whole six and a half  months we dated prior to our wedding, we still make plans and go out for the evening without our kids.  It’s not always been easy and at times we have had to be very creative (check out our carpet picnic here), but we have always made time for each other.

Really, dating is a great thing to benefit your marriage; a break from your element, downtime from the kids, time to reconnect with your spouse and talk about everything going on in your lives or the silly things that can keep your mind off work for a little while.

Yes, we all need it.

But, seriously, why do I date my husband?

I think my Audley actually says it best….

“If you have an expensive car like a Mercedes, BMW or Lexus, you’ll do whatever you must in the way of maintenance to keep that car at peak performance. You know that vehicle, it’s quirks, what makes it run well and you know when it’s not at its best, and needing maintenance.

It’s the same way with your spouse.  You learn when things are well with your mate, what they like and dislike, when they are struggling, and even every little quirk they have.  They are precious and should be treated as such. You do whatever maintainance is needed to keep your marriage fresh, alive and always growing; always at it’s best.”

“Wives submit (offer respect) to your husbands as to the Lord….

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for it…”

~Ephesians 5:22,25

Yes, our marriage relationships are precious, special, and lovely indeed!

Date night!

Date night!

I do love to date my man though.  It’s our time to disconnect from the stresses of the world and reconnect with one another.  We laugh, we talk, we share, we still dream and oh how we love!

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Since Audley travels during the week for work, I have returned to the workforce this last year, and we have three very busy teenagers at home, our nights out are even more important to us now than even ten years ago!

Sometimes we dress-up and go to the theater (if you have a man that will watch Broadway AND ballet with you…. he’s good one!!), sometimes we go casual just strolling through a park (Audley will even go to the Country Living Fair at Stone Mountain with me), it may be sushi night, out to the movies (we have very opposite tastes so that isn’t too often), NASCAR races, slipping away for weekends in a hotel, watching football either live or at Buffalo Wild Wings, and sometimes we never even leave the house!  There are times we keep it cheap (or free) and times we go way out of our budget, but each and every moment is treasured and precious to us.

No matter what we do, we have found plenty of things that we are interested in together.  And that is the key…. together.  I have been very blessed to enjoy four girls weekends away this summer with girlfriends, bloggers, and my sisters.  Audley enjoys golf with the guys. But in the end, the most fun we have is always together.

Which is as it should be.

Just out of curiosity, how long have you been married and what do you do to keep the romance alive in your marriages?

I would love to know!

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Our Anniversary

It’s rare to hear someone say that they can celebrate SEVENTEEN years of pure happiness with their LOVE!
 
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Yet, here we are.  Seventeen beautiful, happy & adventurous years.

 
Seventeen years ago today, Audley and I began the greatest adventure of our lives!
In a time where marriage is taken so lightly and are falling apart all around, seventeen years is a huge deal.  Audley is my rock, my biggest cheerleader and the absolute love of my life.  No matter what the world has thrown at us, together with our faith in God, we conquer and come out stronger each time.
“to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part”
{I said those words and I meant every one of them!}
I am so looking forward to the many more years God will bless us with, and can’t wait to see what they bring!
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“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 

Love & Southern Pecan Pie

August 5th marks mine and Audley’s 16th wedding anniversary, and if I have learned anything in 16 years, it’s that it is perfectly fine to spoil your husband!
{In fact, I highly recommend it!}
We were such naive (and thin!) kids back then, but I have loved growing up with my dear Audley and having the wonderful marriage we do today!  No one ever said marriage was easy, but a healthy combination of unconditional love, forgiveness, lots of laughter, patience, and yes, even a little spoiling sure does make marriage fun!
I know pecan pies are traditionally thought of as a delightful fall treat, but since I enjoy spoiling that man of mine, I can’t help but fix one or two or ten occasionally through the year just for him.  His birthday “cake” this year was not one, but two delicious pecan pies!
Now let me be honest with you, I cannot make a decent pie crust to save my life.  I can mix one all day long.  The problem is rolling it and getting it to fit in the pan.  So instead of spending all day wrestling with dough until the point of cussing, I used Pillsbury pie crusts.  It is that simple.
{Buy a pie crust and save yourself a lot of heartache.}
For the Pecan Pie filling:





    • 5 tablespoons unsalted butter

 

  • 1 cup packed light brown sugar
  • 3/4 cup light corn syrup
  • 1/2 teaspoon fine salt
  • 2 cups chopped toasted pecans
  • 1 to 2 tablespoons bourbon 
  • (don’t buy cheap bourbon … make it a good Kentucky bourbon like Makers Mark or Woodford Reserve, or Knob Creek)
  • 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
  • 3 eggs, lightly beaten

 

 

 

 
Preheat the oven to 400 degrees and arrange your pie crust into an 8-in pie pan.  If you have pie weights (or dried beans), use them, otherwise pierce the bottom of your pie crust (and be prepared to scrub the pan) to keep the crust from shrinking as you bake it for a few minutes.  Bake until very lightly browned, being careful not to over cook or the crust will burn when you add the filling and cook again.
In a medium saucepan, mix together the butter, brown sugar, corn syrup,  and salt bringing to a boil over medium heat while continuously stirring to prevent burning.
This isn’t my preferred bourbon, but still really good
Continue to boil for one minute, then remove from heat.  Stir in the pecans, bourbon and vanilla.
{Don’t cheat yourself out of pecans!  If 2 cups doesn’t suit your fancy, by all means, add more!}
After stirring in the pecans, bourbon, and vanilla, set the mixture aside to cool.
In a small bowl, lightly whisk the eggs.  When the pecan mixture has cooled so that you can touch it without burning yourself, whisk the eggs into it, mixing well.
Pour the filling into your prepared crust, reduce oven heat to 350 degrees and bake just until center is set, about 40 minutes.
{Try sprinkling a cup of chocolate chips on your pie crust before adding your pie filling.  It will take your pie to a whole new level of delicious!}
Serve your pies up real pretty, making sure you have plenty of vanilla ice cream or whipped cream to accompany it.   You can even spike your whipping cream with a splash of bourbon (1 tsp. per pint) which makes for a grand accompaniment.
Tiered server is from HomeGoods
 
 
So, spoil the man in your life just a little, and by all means, enjoy your pie y’all!
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