For the third time in three years and fourth time overall we have celebrated another graduation in our little family. Last weekend was so special as siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins and friends all celebrated this youngest child of ours.
Audley and I couldn’t be more proud of the four children we’ve raised and the young adults they have and are becoming.
If you follow me on social media (you really ought too!), you know our Bradley has enlisted in the Maine Corps and leaves in just 6 days for boot camp at Parris Island, SC.
This was not a decision made lightly, but one Bradley has carefully weighed and considered. Bradley’s decision was made in part because honestly, the military is in his blood. Audley was a Navy submariner, his grandfather in the Army national guard, his great-grandfather & that whole generation of great-great uncles on both sides of the family were in the Navy, Air Force and Army serving in WWII and the Korean Conflict, and his great-great grandfather served in WWI, with other direct descendants fighting in the Civil War and the Revolutionary War. Service for what one believes in and in this country is in Bradley’s genes; it just comes natural.
Bradley’s decision was also made because he absolutely despises school and he realized that there was no reason to borrow or pay money to be somewhere he didn’t want to be. He isn’t interested in trade school right now either as he isn’t bent that way. Bradley is a natural born leader, a protector, and a servant. He desires to take care of others and a college classroom is most certainly NOT going to satisfy that need!
I applaud his decision. Not everyone is cut out for college, yet society (or the student loan companies) seem determined everyone needs to go! As parents we should not make our kids into what and who we think they should be in their careers, but lead and guide them in the direction their personality and desire takes them. Bradley has chosen service to his country; a country he is actually very proud to live in. As a matter of fact, about 20 of his classmates have made that same decision! They are joining the guard, the Navy, Army and a total of five will be Marines with my son; one just left for boot camp just three days after graduation!
Some of Bradley’s friends have chosen trades. Kudos to them! You do NOT have to have a four-year degree to be a success in life! Ask my husband who works with welders, steelworkers, and the like everyday and are making 6-figure salaries.
Now before you start passing judgement, I am not anti-college. First, I have a bachelors degree (although I’ve never used it) in Public Relations and Mass Communications. After serving six years in the Navy, Audley, first studying to be an EMT & Paramedic (these are both license programs), now has his Master’s degree and a list of letters from professional certifications behind his name that have benefitted him greatly in his career of construction safety. Our oldest, Samantha, has an associates in general ed which allowed her to sit for certification programs, giving her a career in the medical field that she absolutely LOVES! MacKenzie will graduate with her bachelors next year in Exercise Science (a field which she is passionate about) and plans to sit for a couple of certifications, one allowing her to train athletes. Madeline is also working on her 4-year degree although I’m pretty sure she’s majoring only in Lacrosse right now, but having a lot of fun on that scholarship! Each of our children chose their own paths into adulthood, including two who married at 20 years old! We’ve encouraged them to follow their dreams , supported them and offered guidance when we saw they needed it.
When I graduated college the keynote speaker made the statement that “if you don’t love the field in which you are working, get out of it and find a new path”. Unhappiness in a career affects you not only at work, but in your personal life as well.
So here’s to you Class of 2018! Don’t let societal peer pressure dictate which path to take. Follow your passions and your heart into a career path you love. Be a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher. Become a personal trainer, a welder, a photojournalist.
And if your heart says be a Marine, by all means, BE A MARINE!