New Year Resolutions to Make (That don’t Involve Dieting)

Once again the time has arrived; January, where we all make a list of resolutions or goals that we want to accomplish in the upcoming year.  Some of these we will keep, some of these we will break in a matter of days.

While I have not polled my friends, based on many conversations and Facebook statuses, it seems a common theme of most resolutions seems to be diet and weight loss related.  These are also the goals that are broken the quickest.  In this battle of the waistline that I have fought for the last several years, I have learned many things.  The most important of those lessons is that winning the war for your health is a mind game.

Practicing mindfulness in many areas of your life is a sure way to make improvements!  When you have your mind in the right place, the weight loss and good health often seem to follow, so today, I’m offering fifteen suggestions (in no particular order) to make your New Year’s resolutions that don’t involve dieting, but will improve your health!


*Organize your schedule.  Buy a real day planner.  Color code your family and write it all down.  Don’t allow yourself to over-schedule your time and let busyness consume you.  Be mindful of your time and what you are doing with it.  Take a few minutes each Sunday night to look at your week and adjust what you can to make your week as stress free as possible!

college girl planner

Two of my three girls keep color-coded planners as well

*Say “NO” more often.  It’s definitely OK.  We tell our kids no on a regular basis; now learn to say it for ourselves.  Don’t add more to your plate than you can handle or you will find yourself gasping for air wondering where your days, weeks and months have disappeared.  If you are already in charge of multiple projects, try delegating so that you aren’t in charge of every detail.  Save your sanity and say no to more.

*Unplug after supper.  If you are spending your evening answering email and text messaging, it’s time to step back.  Leave your job in the office and savor your moments at home.  Set a pretty table and linger to talk with your family longer after dinner, read a magazine, cuddle with your spouse; there are so many better ways to spend an evening at home.  There have been numerous studies that say unplugging helps you calm down and even sleep better.

*Speaking of sleep, go to bed early.  Our sleep is when our body and mind recover from the day.  We need rest.  You can always record that late night show to watch on the weekend or even catch it onDemand.  Rest is so much more important than a show.  Make your room a sanctuary from the world (no TV, etc… ), dress up your bed with fabulous sheets and covers, and dive in to rest at night!


*Take care of yourself.   Seriously, if you don’t take care of yourself, who is going to do it for you?  Enjoy downtime and don’t fret if you are not busy.


Go to the gym, take a walk, indulge in a hot bath, read a book, eat more fruits and veggies and less Chick Fil A, get a hair cut…  Little things go a long way to taking care of yourself.


*Go Outside.  Yep, take a walk around the neighborhood.   Head off to a dog park and play with your furry child.  Plant a flower garden. Visit a local state park and walk.  Try following a couch to 5K plan.  Stroll through a farmers market.  Just get out more and sit less.


*Explore where you live.  I know we all don’t have a Central Park, Williamsburg or Stone Mountain …. OK I live 15 minutes from Stone Mountain, but there are plenty of options for exploring.  Visit a state park and walk the trails or rent a canoe for the afternoon on the lake.  Investigate a little local history and walk or drive around looking for historical locations.  Take a day or weekend trip with the family to a touristy destination in your state.  There is a big ole world out there, and it begins in your backyard!


*Turn the TV off.  Open your mind to reading, enjoying a new genre of music, visiting with your family, or even preparing a gourmet dinner every once in a while.  With so much negative and trashy stuff on TV these days, turning it off only enriches your mind! Turning it off also adds a considerable amount of time to your day! Just so you know, I’m not saying never watch TV.  We all need our Chip and Joanna fix, the excitement of a Georgia Bulldog football game, and to enjoy the cheese of the Hallmark channel regularly, but don’t let it consume you!



*Let go of toxic people.  There is always that one person who is never at fault for the things they constantly complain about in their lives.  The one who spends more time being jealous of you than being happy for you. The one who demands all the attention no matter the occasion and is mad at you when they don’t receive it.  And the one who is always at the center of drama “yet never knows why.”  I’m not saying never speak to them and to just drop them, but there are far better people to have in your circle of friends, I promise.


*Eat out less and cook more!  Not only does this benefit your checkbook, you know exactly what you are eating!  Who wants a ton of additives and artificial ingredients as well as other people’s DNA going into their food, when you can easily control every aspect of what your are dining on.  You can meal prep on your off day or fix a little extra with supper the night before.  And there is nothing wrong with a yummy sandwich on whole wheat bread and crisp veggies for lunch at work.  You’ll feel better eating real food, and you might find yourself tightening your belt a little as well.


*Drink more water.  Replacing common beverages like cokes, juices, and booze with water can have a significant impact on your health and wellness.  Staying hydrated with water can also improve your physical appearance and keep you feeling full.  When your body is dehydrated, you often think you are hungry, when you really aren’t.  If you are bored with plain old water, dress it up with fresh fruit and a little mint!


* Find a new hobby.  Learn a new lettering technique, to cook French cuisine, a new language, try weight lifting or barre,  or paint and rearrange your own house.  Extend yourself!


*Give back.  There are days I feel so locked up in myself its hard to remember there are people who need us.  Read to the elderly at a nursing home, become a mentor, volunteer in a soup kitchen, work an after-school program… this list goes on and on of ways you can help others.  You will encourage someone else by giving back, and you will feel better not focused on just yourself.

*Forgive someone.  This is not for them, but for yourself.  Holding onto grudges or feuds has a negative impact on your health both mentally and even physically as stress and anxiety develops over the issues.  Sometimes you just have to say I forgive you, apologize for whatever you may have done as well, and let it go.  What the other person does with the forgiveness and apology is on them.

*Finally, practice gratitude each and every day.  We all have bad days, but even on the worst of days, there are little things that are still good.  Practicing gratitude improves your mood and attitude.  Try to keep a list throughout the day (write it in that day planner you’ve invested in) so that you are focused on the good things in your life no matter how big or small.


Nothing like ending the day with a little peace of mind.

Happy New Year my friends, and I wish you much success with your resolutions!!



What I Wore: A Glimpse of Fall

Living in gym clothes most of the time, fashion isn’t always something I think about.  While I do my hair and makeup everyday, as a stay-at-home wife and mom it seems I don’t require a huge wardrobe.  Between cooking, cleaning, high school sports and quick errand running, I just want to be comfortable most days,  For me that is yoga pants and tee-shirts.

{Now most of my tee’s are trendy with little sayings like “Wife. Mom. Boss”}

While I have gained confidence in a lot of areas since my days of being morbidly obese, how to dress is not one of those areas which may be why I am most happy in yoga pants.

Dress up days for me are Sundays and date night with that hubby of mine, but he sees me all the time.  Recently I posted a couple of pictures on social media from events I attended and was asked over and over by friends about what I was wearing!

Now I don’t know if it’s because I’m always dressed casually so dressing up is a big deal, or if because what I was wearing might actually be fashionable, but I thought I would share a little “what I wore” and  “where to buy” today.

You might find yourself surprised!

The first outfit I wanted to share is one I recently wore at Disney World and Epcot when I visited for the International Food and Wine Festival.

My girl friend Tami and I wanted to dress up just a little since we were there for a specific reason, and she is a fashion blogger so I needed to step out of my comfort zone a little.


I loved this blue top/dress and everyone was amazed to discover that I found it at Cracker Barrel of all places!


I loved the color and the fact it could be dressed up or left casual just by swapping jewelry, shoes (I wore it with 4-inch heeled booties to church services) and adding tights.  For this particular day I wore it with Hue leggings that can be purchased at Macy’s for under $20 and a pair of Sam & Libby ballet flats from Target.


As for the mouse ears, you can find a wide variety throughout Disney, so it was easy to find the sapphire ones to match!  After all, every little girl needs mouse ears for her first visit to Disney!

My second outfit that stirred a flurry of comments was this fall ensemble that is actually from LuLaRoe.  Yes, I’ve read all the negative publicity surrounding the company, but I have several pieces that really work for me.

And I find them to be quite nice.

For this outfit I paired a “Joy” (the long vest) with a “Carly” (a high/low swing dress).


I’m not big on extra flowy (it goes back to when I weighed 270 pounds & liked to hide behind my clothes), so I put a dart in the back so that it fit in a way I felt comfortable; not clingy, but also not baggy.

While I don’t have to shop there to dress my body anymore, my tall boots are a leather classic riding boot and were purchased at Lane Bryant.  I have large calves (a by product of years of catching in softball), and Lane Bryant carries boots that fit just perfectly over mine!

To dress up my LuLaRoe, I added a large pendant that I’ve had for years of a Fox Hunting scene (an eBay purchase) and carried a small leather purse from Brahmin (Purchased at Macy’s).  It’s always amazed me how well-chosen accessories can really add to a rather plain outfit!

Out of curiosity, what is your everyday look?  What type of pieces work best for you?


Post Vacay Clean Eats

I absolutely love to travel, experiencing the many fun and unique things you can do in other places from culture to food.  But, what I do not like about travel is how I often feel upon returning home; swelling from long plane flights, belly bloat and just plain feeling fat … it is miserable!

Vacation-Family-Picture | ohfiddledeedee

Audley, Bradley and I returned from San Diego late Sunday night. While I still battle my weight (I always will), I have settled into a pattern of maintenance that keeps me feeling healthy, energetic, and happy for the most part.

An occasional “cheat” type meal fits into my lifestyle just fine, but after an entire week of spicy Mexican food, rich desserts, home cooked full breakfast each morning and a stop at In and Out Burger my body was not at all happy with me.  I have spent the last three days doing a little intermittent fasting (do a little research as it is good for you to add to your health and wellness routines from time to time), trying to detox and make my gut happy with me again.

Another way I detox is to eat really clean whole foods with ingredients that I can pronounce.  That means I prepare and cook everything that goes into my body and on our table using fresh and organic ingredients.

The easiest of all recipes is egg whites and oatmeal.  I carb-cycle (three low carb days followed by a day with two meals of heavy carb), so this delicious one-pan meal, that is so filling and satisfying, is a favorite of mine.

It’s also super easy to make and can be so versatile.**

Oatmeal-and-Egg-whites | ohfiddledeedee

Ingredients are very simple: 4 egg whites (separate these yourself, do not use the ones in a carton), 1/2 cup McCann’s Oatmeal, 2 Tablespoons Navatis Cacao powder (I found this at the Vitamin Shoppe), 1/2 cup water and a little stevia if you like it sweet.

Whisk all the ingredients together in a saucepan over medium heat. Cook until the oatmeal and egg whites reach a custardy state, stirring continuously while it cooks.

{This will stick if you aren’t paying attention.}

Top with strawberries and serve up pretty.  It’s almost like a dessert, so you never know that it’s good for you!

Eggwhites-and-oatmeal | ohfiddledeedee

**I did mention that this recipe is versatile, so here is another option:  Leave out the cacao powder and instead toss fresh diced fruit of another variety in your oatmeal.  Peaches are so good, as are any type of berry!

Your body will thank you for eating so clean and your tummy will thank you.

Clean-Eats-for-Breakfast | ohfiddledeedee

I have learned from experience food can either destroy you or heal you.  It’s all how you eat and use it!


Out & About with Kustom Klutch

This week begins a new season of life for me.  For the first time in three years, I am a stay-at-home-mom.  When I went to work three years ago it was out of sheer boredom and loneliness, as we were still relatively new in town.  With Macy’s deciding to discontinue Elizabeth Arden (which eliminated my job), Audley and I decided together it was a great opportunity for me to return to our home.  My teenagers are actually thrilled over this, as is my husband, but mostly I think I’m relieved to have turned the page on that season of life.

So, I have shed the Macy’s black and brought back a little color to my life!  For me, blue and white is the quintessential color combo of summer.  Recently for an evening out with Audley to celebrate this new freedom of mine, I chose a pair of white Miss Me jeans paired with a blue and white striped top from INC (Macys… it was good for some things), and a fabulous pair of tan wedges by Steve Madden.  To complete my look I carried a denim clutch with red pom poms and a tassel from Kustom Klutch.

on the town

I can’t help but brag that I’m down to a size 8 from a 24 just a few summers back!!  I intend to be a 6 by September… just saying.

Designed by Jordan Fish, girlfriend of NASCAR driver Denny Hamlin, these cute clutches are handmade in Charlotte, North Carolina.


Once you design your clutch and place your order online (click here to check out Kustom Klutch) your custom bag arrives in just a couple of days packaged so adorably cute and included a hand-written note.

My daughters wanted to tear right into it…. Oh wait, Madeline did!!


When you purchase your clutch, not only are you supporting a small and young business (these went live in June), you are also supporting a charity.  Ten percent of each purchase goes to a charitable organization of Jordan’s choosing each month.  When I purchased both of my clutches (couldn’t make up my mind…) in June, the charity of choice was the Denny Hamlin Foundation which is “committed to raising awareness and funds for the specific needs of children with cystic fibrosis.”  For July her charity of the month is Pit Stops for Hope.


I was able to choose my bag and then added the tassel for a little whimsy.  The clutches are very well made and perfect for a night on the town.  You can easily fit your keys, a change purse with id and money, and of course a lipstick inside.

When your out for an adults night, leave the mom purse at home and go cute!


As I mentioned, I did purchase two of these fun clutches; the denim and red as well as a floral print (which looks fabulous with a royal blue sundress!).  So much fun for a summer night out!


Check out the Kustom Klutch website and find a clutch to fit your personality!